Pheletant the Elephant

A lot of successful individuals, athletes and business people alike often discuss how they saw in their minds eye what they were going to achieve long before they achieved it. This is because they are motivated by moving towards a goal “I will be the next President”. Some, admittedly, are motivated by moving away from a goal “I will never be poor again”. However, what we have found is that when you move away from a goal, once you achieve that goal, you stop.

Losing weight (goal) because I no longer want to be fat (moving away) means that as soon as you lose some weight, you’ve achieved your goal and can stop

The power of language influences everything we do. “The language we use and verbal patterns we employ seed ideas or generate closed loop questions that trigger actions” Eleanor Goold I'm sure there have been times, you've used language to cajole your child... “You’ve behaved so well today, you can decide if you want to go to bed at seven or seven thirty. You decide?” This is called the DOUBLE BIND: It’s a conversational technique that gives another person two choices, and either of which gives you your required outcome i.e. Would you prefer a bath or shower after dinner? (Setting communication up with the illusion of choice increases
Ask people what they want and they will often tell you what they don’t want.
  • What do you want? I don’t want to be fat.
  • What do you want? I want to lose 5kg
  • What do you want? I want to stop smoking
These answers focus on the negative, what is not wanted.   Instead of focusing on what we want to achieve, we’re focusing on what we want to put behind us. But by continuing to focus on it, we keep it in front of us.   Having a goal in your mind, of what you DON’T want i.e. “don’t eat the chocolate”; means that in order for your brain to remind you

From Me

I just really want to help children feel better about themselves and their lives in their journey through childhood.