Welcome to the Phelly BlogAs you know, my mission is to help children feel better about themselves and their journey through childhood. At the same time, I want to help parents and kids connect so that the child feels supported and parents feel they know what is going on. In this, the Phelly blog, we share thoughts and resources for parents and kids designed at helping kids to just be kids. Happy reading!
The power of language influences everything we do. “The language we use and verbal patterns we employ seed ideas or generate closed loop questions that trigger actions” Eleanor Goold I'm sure there have been times, you've used language to cajole your child... “You’ve behaved so well today, you can decide if you want to go to bed at seven or seven thirty. You decide?” This is called the DOUBLE BIND: It’s a conversational technique that gives another person two choices, and either of which gives you your required outcome i.e. Would you prefer a bath or shower after dinner? (Setting communication up with the illusion of choice increases
Connecting with your child10/05/18
My husband is a great & natural rapport builder. He’s quite tall. Whenever he was chatting with those shorter than him, he found himself naturally standing with his legs apart. Often quite widely. Observers thought he was overly relaxed or attempting to dominate by appearing larger than he was – but in fact – he was building rapport with them by reducing his height to match theirs. The shorter they were, the further apart his legs would go! Rapport is a connection, feeling in sync with someone. Plain and simple. W
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