The Phelly Principle

Thoughts become things - Phelly

It's a team effort

Phelly is the result of ongoing work with accredited senior educators, neuro-linguistic programming practitioners and psychologists, combined with research, planning and design and user testing with families, single parents, pre-schools and OOSH centers.

Phelly’s notes and worksheets have been reviewed by a team of qualified professionals who between us, hold:

  • M.A Child and Adolescent Welfare
  • M.Sc Sociology of Education
  • Masters in Community Education
  • Masters in Child Welfare
  • Masters in Primary Education
  • NSW Registered Clinical Psychologist
Phelly was created by Amanda Anderson, a Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming, a Certificate IV Qualified Personal Trainer and Nutritionist who also has certification training in:
  • Child Mental Health
  • Childhood Trauma
  • Family Health and the impact of Domestic Violence on Children
  • Youth Mental Health First Aid.

Thoughts become things

The best years of your life are the ones in which you learn your problems can be overcome. You realise that you control your own destiny.

Here's the thing though, from the moment they are born, children learn everything they know about the world, and themselves, through their experiences. These experiences shape their thinking and the way they think, shapes them into the people they become. To make sense of the world and their experiences, kids (and adults) create a mental 'map', a mind-map. A simplified version of a route on the map may look like:

Stimulus + Interpretation + Belief = Action > Result

This map serves to help us decide what course of action to take when confronted with a situation. Scientifically, these processes are called Neural Pathways. In layman's terms, these maps represent experiences which shape our decisions, behaviours and attitudes and these pathways get stronger with repetition until our behaviour is considered ‘normal’ (at least in our own minds).

But here is the catch - some neural pathways create limiting or negative behaviours:

  • "I was once bitten by a dog" becomes "all dogs are to be feared"
  • "I've tried to do that before, it didn't work" becomes "that never works"
  • "My friends once betrayed my trust" becomes "trust no one".

Logically, we can see the misrepresentation behind these neural pathway statements, but when you are the one holding the belief, it doesn’t always appear so clear cut.
Through Phelly’s notes and worksheets, he helps children find and strengthen the skills that serve them best, restructuring how they think about their experiences, values & beliefs and how they create their emotional states & inner maps. He then helps them develop new strategies to replace unproductive ones, thereby making it easier for children to change their thoughts and actions.

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